It all started in March of 2020, yup the same week the planet shut down! My dad had a procedure to place a mechanical valve in his heart. Without hesitation, my wife and I flew out to Las Vegas from NYC. We had to be there for him and my mom. Pandemic or not, we made the effort because that is what you do for the people you love and care about! You go out of your way in THEIR time of need. Something many of us have forgotten about in our selfish, pathetic culture of today.
I remember they shut down Las Vegas the day after his surgery, the whole city went dark! Imagine Las Vegas “closed”…it was strange for sure. The surgery was a success and we headed home, in first class on an empty plane, no mask, no vax, no fear. Just grateful my father was going to be ok.
Fast forward to December 2022. I’m now living in Texas. My parents came out to spend Christmas with us. The moment my dad got off the plane I can see something was not right. He was thin, frail and weak. My mom said they were both recently getting over a cold. We come home, have a great meal and watch a movie. The next day my dad and I go to Home Depot to get supplies for the new home gym I’ve been building out in the garage. We get home and start planning out the project and decide to officially start the next day.
Later that night, It’s 1:30am and I hear a knock on my bedroom door. I immediately get up. It’s my mom. “Your dad says he can’t breath.” I see him hunched over on the couch struggling for air. “Dad, you ok, whats wrong?” I ask. “I…can’t …breath…” he says, barely able to get the words out. “You need me to call 911?” I ask. “Yes” he says. I call 911 and in less than 10 min an ambulance shows up. They give him oxygen but it does not seem to help. So they decide to place him on the gurney and rush him to the closest emergency room, which happens to be about 10 min away. The three of us are all just a few minutes behind!
His condition got worse during the ambulance ride, which resulted in him needing to be fully intubated. They found fluid built up in his lungs, which was the reason he couldn’t breath. So much so that, it was the same feeling as drowning. They thought it was covid but he tested negative. Plus he already had covid once with minimal symptoms and he recovered just fine. Cold, tired, nervous and afraid, we all sit tucked away in a small room near the ER waiting for some answers. Every time the nurse came out to give us an update it was tense! I’m waiting for her to tell us “he didn’t make it…”. If you’ve ever been in that situation, it’s extremely nerve racking.
I finally get to go back and see him. He’s in and out of consciousness, fully intubated and pale as ghost. It’s hard to see my father this way. This is not a time to panic or lose my shit. In these situations you must be calm, collected and focused. This is what good leaders must do in high stress and high pressure situations. I’m providing the hospital staff with as much information and history about his health I can recall. Hoping we can solve this puzzle together. They think it’s covid. Unfortunately that line of thinking was still prevalent. I say that because it’s a bullshit assumption in my fathers case. I had to explain his history to help guide them in the right direction. Treat the cause, not the symptom. He was negative for covid, on every fucking test they gave him! They don’t know what is wrong and decide to transfer him to a larger hospital with a good cardiac unit in Austin.
This is the beginning of the hell he went through for the next three months.